Do you like to go with the flow in life or plan things well so you get what you want out of life?
Do you expect the worst to happen or are you happy to look on the bright side? Negative thoughts can make this difficult.
I believe that there is a higher power, guiding us in a certain direction and although difficulties and suffering may happen to us, we are in position to learn from the situation and become empowered from it. Depression has a harsh way of asking us to look at our life and make some changes. It can be a turning point for many.
You can call it destiny or fate. Perhaps if we leave our options open and try different things, we may become connected to certain people who will take us on a path that is meant for us. I like being around new people but in the past social anxiety as made me feel overwhelmed or feel like I may not fit in to a certain group of people.
With mental health problems, sometimes it is hard to differentiate between what are ‘normal’ feelings and what is a ‘mental health issue’. I think societal values has made it difficult for people to work out what is normal and not normal.
For me, there is no such thing as normal. Making comparisons to others and putting unrealistic expectations, is one of the reasons why we get depressed and anxious.
In relation to our mental health, sometimes we try so much to ‘feel better’ and not to feel lonely when sometimes, we may be running from ourselves and not enjoying time with us. How about having some alone time and switching your phone off?
Look at the relationship we have with our self before we look at the relationships we have with others is a good starting point and wish I had this wisdom when I was younger. It is guidance that I can now pass on to my children to increase their self-esteem.
When we don’t have self-love and compassion for our self, we end up forming unhealthy relationships and going down the path that may not be right for us.
‘What is meant for you, won’t go past you’