Asking for help is a strength…

Thought I would share this talk. I watch this channel quite often. It is creative and inspiring. Many of the speakers deliver their talk from the heart, with honesty and they can get your brain working around different issues. It makes you think differently which is brilliant!

This talk is particularly important to me because of the title….’Asking for help is  a strength, not a weakness’. When we look at others we think they are coping better than us but we really do not know their suffering too do we? Is it only me that needs help? probably not…?What is resilience anyway?

I have struggled recently because my immunity has been low and generally managing my depression is a daily mission! I have made connections with more bloggers and at least being at home, I have still made connections with the outside world.

I got a phone call on Saturday from my friend, who was worried about me as she knew I was ill and noticed I had deactivated my Facebook account. It was nice to hear her voice and actually have a conversation. it was nice to know someone cared about me and actually made the effort to check on me, just like my family do.

I take myself away from social media quite a lot because it is time consuming and I fall into the trap of making comparisons.

I wonder why I cant be a successful as everyone else or why I dont feel as good as others ‘appear’ on their Facebook profiles. I also can get drawn into debate, conflict or politics! I see others sending time with their parents and think why dont I have this opportunity with my mum and I will just spiral downwards.

On a positive I will say I am confident  at asking for help but can imagine the people who don’t ask for help and wonder how hard it must be for them. There is nothing wrong with asking for someone to help you travel if you are scared of travelling or someone to make a phone call for you. Evening cooking a meal or making a decision, some of the tasks others take for granted. I did ask for help this weekend with the school run as I was too sick to get to and from school and with a meeting I have in June so I did well to reach out for help!

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I hope you can take some time to watch the talk…..

 

Pet Therapy!

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I recently finished knitting a blanket for my cat, Shire. She lay on it straight away, showing her appreciation for it and enjoying the warmth and comfort.

I have always found pets improved my mental health. They are non-judgmental and they don’t answer you back! 🙂 Cats love to be independent and have the freedom to come and go as they please. They have given me a lot of comfort over the last 20 years and I think the older I have become, the more I have appreciated them.

Want to volunteer with your pet?

 

You may find this wesbsite interesting to read:

 

http://petsastherapy.org/

 

 

 

 

 

A thought for the day……

Depression makes you appreciate the connections you have with people and keeps you away from others drama and complexities. It forces you to battle some days and hold onto hope. You value your children’s smiles and achievements at school no matter how small. It gives you a greater perspective of life than someone who does not experience depression. It is a unique condition often experienced by highly creative and intelligent people (yes, thats me!)

If you know someone who appreciates the good days more than the bad days, be there for them, even if it is just give a listening ear and a cup of tea for an hour of your time. You dont need to guide the person, just listen and help raise a smile

If you have been feeling low for quite some time, be open and honest with your feelings and learn to love yourself before you give love to others. There is a lot of help out there even if the waiting lists for clinical therapy are long and the system is complex. When you get there, you are on a journey of your own recovery however that may be for you. Society is not easy and comparing our self to others is harmful. Accept where you are in life now with no pressure to be ‘successful’.

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